…Knowing when you’ve out grown your situation.
-So that size 10 dress that once hugged your curves in all the right places, doesn’t look so hot when it’s hugging your 9 month baby bump instead does it??
-That cosy yet stylish 2 bedroom apartment that housed you and your first born now suddenly feels like a claustrophobic cupboard when there’s a new addition to the equation doesn’t it??
-Or what about that every day of the week ‘Party Lifestyle’ that you used to lead, before you hit responsibility avenue and surprisingly now doing what you used to do just doesn’t feel the same anymore does it?…….BECAUSE IT’S NOT SUPPOSED TO!!!
-what once fit so perfectly is not so befitting when you’ve out grown it, and that’s the point.
Throughout life we are constantly growing and evolving (well most of us are) so it stands to reason then, that as we change so do our circumstances. There comes a point when you have either literally or figuratively OUT GROWN certain things in your life. For some people it is a time that they embrace because they are excited about the endless possibilities of what comes next and understand that everything happens for a reason. [Ultimately all things work together for their own good.]
For others this is a pulse racing, heart palpitating anxiety ride through hell. There is nothing more torturous to them than the prospect of facing the unknown other than facing the unknown ALONE.
Now I don’t know about any of you but for me personally I used to be a carefree child and I literally used to look forward with great anticipation, as to what the future would hold but this was because I was raised to (‘Adapt through the worst and EXPECT THE BEST!!!’ © Mum&Dad) so I grew up with an optimistic outlook on Love, Life and People and always looked for the good in a bad situation. However as I aged and my emotions wore me out like distressed leather, I started to become more and more cynical and less and less understanding. So what happened to me??? LIFE!!! Did.
I learnt the hard way that frustration, dissatisfaction, restlessness and anxiety are all just triggers to set you on the right path to fulfilling your Destiny/Calling. I like to call them ‘Thought Provokers’ because if you listen to what you’re feeling and then try and internalise it, it will direct you to the right lane.
If you think about it like this, we’re all on a road that leads somewhere and there are certain points where we meet obstacles or set-backs that will cause us to either slow down and switch lanes or pull over, while someone is sent to help us. Other times you’re in a freshly serviced car with a full tank of Gas and an open road that’s just screaming for you to put your foot down and go full steam ahead, towards your destination.
Either way the trick is to ‘…stay in your OWN lane…’ and learn how to recognise when it’s time to take the slip road onto the scenic route and just enjoy the view or move to the fast lane and enjoy the rush.
How do you know when you’re not in the right lane?? When you feel like something’s missing, or your uncomfortable and keep stalling because you’re running on empty. Like being stuck behind a learner driver who just won’t move over, when you’re in a brand new Ferrari. Or you’re in a car (that’s older than Bruce Forsyth) and watching boy racers speed past you in the fast lane and you can’t keep up. Basically ‘when where you are doesn’t match where you’re at’.
‘WHEN THE PLANT NO LONGER FITS THE POT.’ (Nia-Jai © 2013) it has taken all the nutrients from the soil that was once the ‘perfect place’ to nurture its growth and has grown so much now that the size of the pot no longer benefits the plant but instead stifles it !!!
‘KNOW WHEN ITS TIME FOR YOU TO MOVE ON OR MOVE OUT…WHAT ONCE USED TO SUPPORT YOU MAY NOW BE STIFILING YOU’ so pay attention.
Till next week,
#ALWAYSLOVE<3
DS.AMOR